About Nicola
Nicola Spence is a counsellor based in the United Kingdom with three years of professional experience. She works with people facing stress, anxiety, depression, grief, self‑esteem and confidence issues, and challenges linked to relationships, intimacy and addiction. Nicola also supports people dealing with sleep and eating problems, parenting strain, career concerns and neurodiverse needs such as autism and ADHD.
Her style is human‑centred and compassion focused. Nicola avoids symptom lists and diagnostic labels, preferring to look at a person’s life story and strengths.
Background and approach
She offers a calm, non‑judgemental space where people can talk through what feels hard and decide what direction to take. Initial sessions focus on understanding why someone has come to therapy and building a shared picture of their history and current struggles. Nicola then helps make links between past experiences and present patterns, so practical steps can follow.
She aims to empower people by offering choices and co‑planning the work together. Nicola values the therapeutic relationship and says it is central to change. She understands how difficult it can be to reach out, having done so herself, and treats that decision with respect.
Her approach may appeal to people who prefer a trauma‑aware, person‑centred way of working, including those who identify as LGBT who are exploring identity and related issues. People wanting to begin can expect supportive, straightforward conversations that focus on what matters to them now. Nicola will help set goals and review progress as therapy continues.
What Nicola works with
Everything Nicola lists, in their own terms. LGBT is the reason Nicola is listed here; the rest shows what else Nicola works with.
- Stress, Anxiety
- Grief
- Self esteem
- Depression
- Coping with life changes
- Addictions
- LGBT
- Relationship issues
- Family conflicts
- Trauma and abuse
- Intimacy-related issues
- Eating disorders
- Sleeping disorders
- Parenting issues
- Anger management
- Career difficulties
- Bipolar disorder
- Coaching
- Compassion fatigue
- ADHD
- Abandonment
- Aging and geriatric issues
- Antisocial personality
- Attachment issues
- Autism and Asperger Syndrome
- Avoidant personality
- Blended family issues
- Body image
- Cancer
- Caregiver issues and stress
- Chronic pain, illness, and disability
- Codependency
- Commitment issues
- Communication problems
- Control issues
- Coping with natural or human-caused disaster
- Dependent personality
- Dissociation
- Divorce and separation
- Domestic violence
- Drug and alcohol addiction
- Eating and food-related issues
- Emptiness
- Family of origin issues
- Family problems
- Fatherhood issues
- Fertility issues
- Forgiveness
- Guilt and shame
- Hoarding
- Hospice and end-of-life counselling
- Immigration issues
- Impulsivity
- Infidelity
- Isolation / loneliness
- Jealousy
- Life purpose
- Men's issues
- Midlife crisis
- Money and financial issues
- Mood disorders
- Multicultural concerns
- Narcissism
- Obsessions, compulsions, and OCD
- Panic disorder and panic attacks
- Paranoia
- Personality disorders
- Phobias
- Polyamory / non-monogamous relationships
- Postpartum depression
- Post-traumatic stress
- Pregnancy and childbirth
- Prejudice and discrimination
- Process addiction (porn, exercise, gambling)
- Seasonal Affective Disorder (SAD)
- Self-harm
- Self-love
- Sex addiction
- Sexual dysfunction
- Sexuality
- Smoking / vaping cessation
- Social anxiety and phobia
- Women's issues
- Workplace issues
- Young adult issues
Approaches Nicola lists
- Acceptance and Commitment Therapy (ACT)
- Attachment-Based Therapy
- Client-Centred Therapy
- Cognitive Behavioural Therapy (CBT)
- Dialectical Behaviour Therapy (DBT)
- Emotionally-Focused Therapy (EFT)
- Existential Therapy
- Jungian Therapy
- Mindfulness Therapy
- Motivational Interviewing
- Narrative Therapy
- Psychodynamic Therapy
- Solution-Focused Therapy
- Somatic Therapy
- Trauma-Focused Therapy
- Internal Family Systems
- Systemic Therapy
Listing an approach is not evidence of training in it. This directory copies what each counsellor names and does not check training records.
How Nicola's approaches translate to online therapy
Nicola draws from Acceptance and Commitment Therapy, Attachment‑Based Therapy and Client‑Centred Therapy to support people remotely. Acceptance and Commitment Therapy (ACT) helps people notice unhelpful thoughts, clarify personal values and take small actions that matter. It is useful for anxiety, low mood and life changes. Attachment‑Based Therapy looks at how early relationships shape current ways of relating and can help with intimacy, trust and relationship patterns. Client‑Centred Therapy focuses on listening without judgement and building a strong therapeutic relationship, which helps people feel understood and able to explore difficult feelings.Choosing the right approach is part of the work. Nicola will talk with each person about goals, preferences and what feels most helpful. Together they decide which methods to try and will review progress as therapy continues, making adjustments if needed.
Session formats are not specified in the biography, so please confirm current options before booking. Online work can make it easier to fit therapy into a busy week, reduce travel time and allow shorter check‑in sessions when needed. It also lets people use strategies and exercises in everyday settings and bring examples from real life into sessions for immediate discussion.
Questions people ask about Nicola
What kinds of problems does Nicola help with?
She helps people with stress, anxiety, depression and grief, plus issues like self‑esteem, addiction, relationship and intimacy concerns, eating and sleeping difficulties, and career or parenting stress.
What is her therapeutic style like?
Nicola uses a human‑centred, compassion focused and trauma‑aware style. She avoids diagnostic labels and works collaboratively to understand each person's life story.
How much experience does she have?
She has three years of professional work experience in the United Kingdom supporting a range of emotional and practical concerns.
What credentials and region are listed?
She is registered with the British Association for Counselling and Psychotherapy, recorded as BACP, and practises in the United Kingdom.
Which languages can sessions be held in?
Sessions are offered in English.
Can people outside the UK work with her?
She does not accept international clients at this time.
How are sessions paid for and how much do they cost?
Cost varies with location and therapist availability; sessions use a subscription that can be cancelled at any time.
How do I begin working with her?
Click the Start Therapy button, complete a short matching questionnaire, and schedule a session according to the therapist's availability.
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